”What was it like when you made the best decisions you have ever made? Exactly! Go back and do just that!” – Thomas Bjørge
It is that time of year when ideally, we would reflect on what we’ve achieved in the past year, and what were the challenges we met, so that we can start planning ahead, thinking, dreaming, talking…
Rarely though, we take time to consider what really flourished and what withered in the previous year, so we can take note repeat what was good and gave results, and eliminate what didn’t. To make sure that the New Year means a new you, here are
12 simple steps for an awesome 2013
1. What did you achieve in 2012? In one year we achieve a lot, and great many fantastic things happen, yet we tend to loose sight of all the great things we’ve accomplished and usually jump from one project to the next, without insomuch taking a few breaths to look back and congratulate ourselves on what we’ve accomplished. Take some time to jot down all your successes from the previous year – you’ll get a spring in your step and be further inspired and motivated.
2. When were you at your best in 2012? Having taken stock of your successes in the preceding year it is even more important to take stock of when you were at your best. The most excellent states you were in when you accomplished what you did. Because those states is where your behaviours flowed from, your behaviours which made you accomplish your successes during the year. Now, to take your best states with you into the next year: Take time dwelling on your most successful and enjoyable states, and imagine how life will be when you start to use them more often.
3. Where did I stall in 2012? Looking back at the events of the previous year, where the results you got were less than what you expected, is useful only if it serves as a lesson. Pining over your setbacks can influence your goal setting for the next year, and while doing this, some people tend to go back into less resourceful states. Now, one way to avoid this, while learning from your setbacks, is to look at yourself through the eagle’s eye. Imagine soaring high in the sky, seeing yourself from far above, noticing actions and consequences, considering other ways that you could have taken and asking exactly what states you would have needed to be in, in order to achieve better results. So experience the states, pick up the learnings and move on. Look at the setbacks as weeds in your garden. Pull them out, and don’t let them stand in the way of your future planning and your growth.
4. What did you learn in 2012? Look at all the learnings you got both through your accomplishments and your setbacks. Ask yourself what worked and what didn’t. Take time to appreciate your strengths and resources that played a major role in your successes, and also look into weaknesses, and how they can be improved.
5. What are your limiting beliefs? Check what your limiting beliefs are and take responsibility for your life. You are not a victim of circumstance – you create circumstance. Life does not happen to you – you happen to life! Your life is a reflection of actions you took and thoughts you indulged in. Substitute limiting beliefs with empowering ones, and notice the difference.
6. What are your values? Values are deeply held beliefs that influence choices you make in life. What is it that you value the most? Look into the principles that define who you are and by which you live. What is top on your values list: health, vitality, family, relationships, friends. What portion of your time do you devote daily to your top value(s)? Is it enough?
7. Do you walk your talk? Is your life a reflection of your values, beliefs. Are you true to yourself. If you are it will reflect on your goals, successes, accomplishments. Is the way you live your life congruent with your values.
8. What is your intention for 2013? Direct your focus and energy and attention in the direction that is the most important for you and that will help you achieve the kind of change you long for. Find purpose and passion. Find what drives you, what inspires you, what moves you – if your intentions are clear you’ll get there faster. Intentions guide your attention and inspire you to take action.
9. What is your intention behind your intention? This is really another way of asking what is really important to you? Some people make their New Year’s resolution to get into a better shape, without exploring their real intentions, which may be to become more attractive to the the other person. If, following such a resolution, they find themselves spending all the time in the gym rather than in conversation with the subject of their desire :-), maybe it is a good idea to re-evaluate the means they selected to achieve their goals.
10. Where will you be in December 2013? Imagine for a moment that one year has passed and you succeeded in each and every change you decided to introduce in your life this new year. What will your life be like? Are you pleased with your changes? What could you, when you look back at it in retrospect now, improve even more? And from this future vantage point; what do you know about the decisions you made back in December 2012 which enables you to make even better ones when you return in time to make the best decisions possible?
11. How do I know I’ve achieved my goals? Simple! Review them weekly, and make sure that your thoughts and actions each day align with your goals. Measuring them and keeping track on them will help you create a new you in the New Year!
12. Make your New Year’s resolutions YOUR New Year’s resolutions. Make your New Year’s resolutions an expression of who you are. Let them resonate with your true essence. Not just something that sounds good, or that it seems like a good idea. Not just something the language center in your brain thinks sounds good. But something you, with every cell of your body, with every fibre of your soul can and will stand behind.
Wishing you wonderful year, and sending you oceans of love,
Your extraordinary trainers,
Lidija & Thomas
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Lidija Markovic Rosati – ITA NLP (International Trainers Academy of NLP) Accredited New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Master Coach, Hypnotherapist and Psychological Counsellor.
Thomas Björge – ITA NLP (International Trainers Academy of NLP) Accredited New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Master Coach and Designer of New Code Game ‘Arrows’, to be featured in Dr. John Grinder’s upcoming book.