“There are no facts, only interpretations.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
How often do you stop, and think about things from someone else’s perspective. Many of us say we do when it’s a very different story in the heat of the moment, be it at home or at work.
When we talk about ‘perception’, it’s nothing more than our own very distinct and unique view of the world. It is formed at birth and is formed by our values, beliefs and experiences…hence why we are all so very different.
And this makes it so that everything we experience is a result of our perspective.
Of who we are, of where in our life we are, of what state we are in at the moment we experience it.
From another point of view – NLP style
NLP offers some amazing techniques for acquiring someone else’s perspective. To experience the world as someone else does. This is one of the foundations of NLP-modeling: finding super skilful people, learning to do what they do, and figuring out how to teach others how to do it too.
This skill of perceiving the world in the same way as someone else does is also central for every interaction in your daily life. It is the skill that saves or enhances your relationships; when you know what your partner truly appreciates, and when you know how to communicate so that your partner really understands what you are saying, and when you know how to support and make your partner happy.
It is the skill that saves your back in a negotiation; when you are capable of detecting that there is a hidden agenda, when you have before the negotiation considered – nay experienced – what the other side’s position is like for them, when you can perceive what their intentions, wants and musts are.
To provide you with an example: the facilitator of the Camp David Accord negotiation asked President Nasser what the consequences would be for Prime Minister Meier, if Meier were to say ‘Yes,’ to all of Nasser’s demands. Reportedly President Nasser burst out laughing and said: ‘Boy oh boy, would she have a problem!’ The realisation that his own demands were creating a barrier to the negotiations were a step in the right direction.
Mirror yourself in others
You may have heard and read about mirror neurons – neurons that trigger in your brain regardless of whether you yourself are experiencing something, or merely witnessing someone else experiencing it. Simply put this is the phenomenon used by skilled NLP practitioners. And the results and accuracy of what they achieve go far beyond what is commonly believed possible.
Now, whether you are trained in the specific NLP skills for really entering someone else’s perspective of the world or not, we are confident that you realize how important this is. But here is a killer question: how often do you do it? When do you enter another’s model of the world?
With this in mind, may we invite you to spend a few moments right now, thinking about people you will meet during the week, and take on their perspectives of the world. Then, of course, return to your own perspective. Enriched and with a fuller understanding of why your interactions go as they go, and what you can do to improve them.
We wish you a wonderful week and sending you oceans of love!
Your perceptual NLP trainers
Lidija & Thomas
Upcoming NLP trainings in Brussels and USA
We would like to invite you to join our Internationally accredited NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner trainings in Brussels and USA. For more information, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Lidija Markovic Rosati – ITA NLP (International Trainers Academy of NLP) Accredited New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Master Coach, Hypnotherapist and Psychological Counsellor.
Thomas Björge – ITA NLP (International Trainers Academy of NLP) Accredited New Code and Classic Code NLP Trainer and Master Coach and Designer of New Code Game ‘Arrows’, to be featured in Dr. John Grinder’s upcoming book.